Comments on: Consenting Public?

By: allforher

allforher — Wed, 26 Nov 2008 19:51:24 +0000

When I was young, maybe 8 or 9 years old, my family was walking through the mall and shopping. Sitting on a bench in the middle of a walkway was a man and woman. They were both dressed in leather and the man was on a leash. Being young and naive I stared. As I walked past he barked and snapped as if to bite. My parents (if they even noticed, which how could they not) never said anything to me, although my father must not have seen the movement towards me or he would have beaten the living crap out of the guy (my dad was a brawler).
Anyway, I never really gave much thought to it. It did not contribute to any of my submissive tendencies. It’s merely a curious memory. I don’t consider myself scarred by it at all. As a matter of fact I’m probably more scarred from seeing my dad punch people in the face so many times as a kid.
What’s funny is that if that were to happen today and the person on the leash barked at one of my children I would definitely reprimand the owner for such a poorly behaved animal.

By: Too Much Of A Good Thing? « A Little Cinful

Too Much Of A Good Thing? « A Little Cinful — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 04:06:22 +0000

[...] 24, 2008 · Filed under Uncategorized In a comment on my Consenting Public post Puppy Princess wrote: My 13 year old grandson thinks my collar is cool; he doesn’t think [...]

By: Puppy Princess

Puppy Princess — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 07:48:40 +0000

Maybe I’m a little naive, but I wear my collar all the time everywhere I go. The only exceptions I make are the shower and work. (Gotta keep a professional image at the office.) My collar is very pretty, pink Italian leather with shiny brass hearts, Swarovski crystals, and a little brass cat bell dangling. I get comments occasionally, but I just tend to think nothing of it. I simply think of my collar as extension of myself, kind of like my eyeglasses.

I mean, it’s not like I wear a spiked collar, but so what if I did? I’m very pretty and exotic looking even without the collar. I tend to draw attention, I’m used to that. My 13 year old grandson thinks my collar is cool; he doesn’t think it’s odd in the lease. He’s just used to it. He may have asked me why I wear it once; I told him that I like it, that I think it’s pretty and he was content with that answer. Could some people, perhaps, be over thinking this one?

XO,
Puppy

By: cinful

cinful — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 00:38:01 +0000

That is really the only point I’m trying to make.

Far too often people confuse scening and sex with D/s and while I don’t advocate scening and sex in public I think we can err on the side of too much caution when it comes to living as dominant and submissive persons.

I just refuse to live in the closet; I saw too much of that with my gay friends.

Thanks for the comment!

By: Nadia

Nadia — Sun, 09 Nov 2008 14:11:15 +0000

I like this post. Your point about how we see things unconsensually all the time is a good one. It’s not like kinksters want to go around having sex and scenes in public, but to wear a collar, to call someone “Sir” – these are things that can’t truly be harmful for children to hear.